Tuesday, June 2, 2009

~Happy Birthday Sam~



Today our family recognizes the birthday of a dear friend.  A friend who passed on far to early.  We remember Sam "Sammi" Masoudi on what would have been his 13th birthday.  

In previous writings I have alluded to the difficulty our family, and my son in particular, has had with the loss of several friends this year.  It is the loss of Sam that haunts him the most.  This child, this sweet, sweet boy was four years older than my son.  He was a mentor, not just in Tae Kwan Do but in so many other ways.  I will never ever forget the kindness that Sammi showed my son.  The example he set.  The confidence he passed on to my child.

I remember the daily wave and his sweet happy smile as he passed our car in the carpool lane.  I will never ever forget the day he was with some of his friends and my Will stuck his head out the window saying "Hey Sam!".  Sammi turned around with a big grin, and walked right up to the car window and said, "Hi William, see you later at Tae Kwan Do.", he then turned back to his friends and headed down the path.  Will grew two inches in that moment and my self conscious and sensitive little boy sat back into his seat with the biggest smile, glowing with pride.  I am so grateful to Sam Masoudi for that day.  

William misses playing Army Navy Charge with Sammi.  He misses talking about Star Wars legos and Star Wars in general.  Sam and his sister's deaths were the result of a random and unimaginable freak accident, a shock that completely rocked our world.  Will goes in and out and up and down - grief and confusion undefined.  He prefers to avoid talking about it until he explodes with anger and sadness.  I hold him and talk with him, not always sure I'm saying the right things because I am angry and sad too.

For so long I have thought that there are no words, everyone always says "there are no words", but there are words.  Maybe not enough words, but little by little the stories and memories of a life stopped short become words.  These are the words I share with you today.  Sam was an amazing young man whose touch will forever be imprinted on my son.  

Please say a prayer for the family of Sam and Grace Massoudi.    

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20 Responses to "~Happy Birthday Sam~"
  1. John Bryan said...
    June 2, 2009 at 8:17 AM

    For the best of reasons and the worst tragedy, Sammi will be with our family forever. Thank you for sharing on his birthday. He is badly missed.

  2. Anissa said...
    June 2, 2009 at 8:28 AM

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  3. Mrs. Fish: aka Two Fish said...
    June 2, 2009 at 9:14 AM

    What a great tribute! What a great memory, how sad to have lost such a special life so young. Thanks so much for sharing the stories of these boys! So awesome.

  4. Astaryth said...
    June 2, 2009 at 9:26 AM

    Death is almost always sad, but when it is a child.... they never got the chance to become what they would be. So Sad. What a wonderful tribute to a boy who obviously had much to give.

  5. Randi Troxell said...
    June 2, 2009 at 11:00 AM

    his family.. along with you and yours... will certainly be in my prayers.

  6. Together We Save said...
    June 2, 2009 at 1:36 PM

    That was a wonderful tribute. I hope your son's greif passes in time.

  7. Laoch of Chicago said...
    June 2, 2009 at 1:53 PM

    Fine and moving post.

  8. septembermom said...
    June 2, 2009 at 2:27 PM

    So tragic. A moving tribute. I'm glad that your son had such a wonderful friend in his life. It must be so tough for him. I pray for all of you.

  9. Keep It Classy, Jen said...
    June 2, 2009 at 2:55 PM

    Fiona I knew you said there were a few deaths this year in your life I had no idea it was effecting your son...so sorry. He is lucky to have a mommy like you remind him of the memories that were so happy with Sammi.

  10. Hit 40 said...
    June 2, 2009 at 3:45 PM

    I agree there are words. You did a beautiful job of trying to express some of the words to try to pay tribute to a young life that ended way too soon.

    Words, smiles, hugs... just being there for the family. The hole that was left in their life is unknowable. When events happen like this in life, you just realize how little possessions mean. How little it matters about what you wear or what you buy.

    Life is precious and short. Life is to live with family and friends. Life is to see and to experience beautiful sights with those that you hold dear.

    I will say a prayer for the family. Thank you.

  11. Yaya said...
    June 2, 2009 at 5:24 PM

    That is so sad. I can't imagine.

  12. Ann's Rants said...
    June 2, 2009 at 6:08 PM

    What a tragedy. You're setting a great example for your son by memorializing his friend.

    It's one way to let him know that people die, but relationships don't.

    Sharing memories also provides him a window to vent if he needs to.

    My sincere condolences.

  13. Muthering Heights said...
    June 2, 2009 at 6:11 PM

    That is so terribly sad. It was sweet of you to post this tribute to him!

  14. Becky said...
    June 2, 2009 at 6:56 PM

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, emotions and remembrances about the death of Sam. I was struck by what an impression it made on your son when Sam acknowledged him, and what a wonderful reminder it is to all of us to affirm those who cross our path each day, for our love and attention may sometimes be the only good thing in their entire day!
    Love & Light~
    OM girl

  15. WhisperingWriter said...
    June 2, 2009 at 9:04 PM

    Oh my goodness. This was a beautiful tribute to those beautiful children.

  16. LT said...
    June 2, 2009 at 9:45 PM

    What a beautiful post Fiona! We will be praying for Sam and Grace's family as well as William and you.

  17. Shady Lady said...
    June 2, 2009 at 10:12 PM

    Beautiful post, Fiona.

  18. MommaYoung said...
    June 3, 2009 at 6:36 AM

    Awww they are so cute!

  19. Felicia said...
    June 4, 2009 at 5:24 AM

    I will definitely remember to lift this family and your family up in prayers. What a blessing you are giving your own son by allowing him.. giving him permission.. to talk to his friend. Your son, much like yourself, are probably in a place where it is hard to know what to do. You are so right, sharing the stories, even though they may not come at first, is so important.

  20. Marie said...
    June 6, 2009 at 6:48 PM

    Fiona,
    Thank you for writing about our beloved son Sam. Liz, Fred and I struggle every day to cope with our changed lives but Sam was a very special boy--kind and deeply thoughtful as you described. We are thankful that your family keeps him in your heart and we are deeply grateful that he was with us for the time he was.

 

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